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Blogging, it’s just like sexting

Okay, I’ve spent a considerable amount of my time blogging but I’ve never sent a sext in my life. So, how can I write a post comparing blogging to sexting, I hear you ask? Well, I also spend a good portion of my time eavesdropping conversations on the bus…

I over heard a girl telling her friend how to send the perfect sext/nude and I couldn’t help but think wow… that sounds like blogging, just less naked. 

So, how is blogging like sexting?

You need to get personal

This one has a double meaning. Firstly, in my experience, there’s nothing worse than opening different social media platforms and seeing the exact same post with the exact same caption that I’ve already seen on Twitter, Facebook and now Instagram. Mix things up a little, don’t just copy and past your 280 character message filled with hashtags to platforms that don’t really utilise hashtags.

Secondly, and this might actually be worse than the previous point, don’t just drop a link to your new blog post to someone you’ve never spoken to without any kind of introduction or preface. Blogging is all about the communication and no one is going to want to read your post if you’re not even the slightest bit interested in them as a person. Blogging, like sexting, is getting intimate with words… just not quite as sexual.

You have to pick your moment

Like most things in life, timing is key. Every platform has different optimal sending times so you need to make sure you’re putting out your content at the right time. You need to figure out what time of day best suits your audience, not you, so sometimes its necessary to draft when you’re in the mood and send out later. I still haven’t quite figured out whether it’s better to upload a blog post in the morning or the evening, but I’ve found that evening Instagram posts always do better for me. And Twitter is most active/responsive during weekday evenings so I tend to reach more of my desired audience by promoting my content at these times.

A killer photo is necessary 

I don’t know about you but taking/finding the perfect image to accompany a post is the most common reason I miss my upload deadline. We live in the era of artful images and satisfying flat-lays, so a great picture is needed to shock, persuade or arouse – especially on Instagram. If you don’t have the time/resources to take said killer photos, then stock image websites like Unsplash are your best friend.

It’s all about the feelings

How does what you’re writing make your reader feel? That needs to be your focus, not how happy it would make you for them to reply. Lav already covered how much we all hate generic post comments, and there’s nothing worse than a pity reply. Blogging, like sexting, has to ignite a desire in the other person. You have to hit them right in the feels for them to want to comment and interact with you, not just do it because they feel obliged to.

Didn’t get the response you were hoping for? Brush it off

Your new blog post or Instagram picture isn’t always going to be a hit, no matter how great you think it is or how excited you were about it. I know it bruises your ego when you don’t get the response you were hoping for but there could be so many reasons why people didn’t interact with your post, and more than likely it’s to do with time. Or that damn Instagram algorithm. But as Ariana Grande says: thank u, next.

 

Photo by Nicole Honeywill on Unsplash

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60 COMMENTS

  • Marie-Céline

    Unsplash is definitely the place to go for photos when you can’t take a good photo for yourself. I hadn’t considered blogging to be like sexting, but it’s an interesting thought! Mx

    • hanmwill
      AUTHOR

      Such a great resource for photos! Thanks, Marie! 🙂 x

  • Geraldine

    Oh my God this is so true hahaha. I was wondering what the heck I would be reading with a title like that! But it is so true and you hit the nail on the head with this! You have to time it right, and make it personal, combined with an effective picture. Marketing strategies is needed for both blogging and sexting 😂 now I will always have that connection in my head forever. 🤣 Great post Han!

    Geraldine | https://geraldinetalks.com

    • hanmwill
      AUTHOR

      Haha, thanks, Ger! I’m glad you enjoyed it! It was a bit of a bizarre link but I got there in the end, haha! x

  • Dino Pebenito

    You have a killer Title! very eye catchy!

    Hello – nice post about blogging. I am truely aggree that having a high quality and bad ass photo is a must for blogging.

    From
    Dinodidwhat.com

    • hanmwill
      AUTHOR

      Thank you so much! 🙂

  • Bill Fonda

    If blogging is like sexting, I don’t do one at all and I think I’m doing the other one wrong! LOL

    • hanmwill
      AUTHOR

      Haha, oh Bill! 😂

  • Mind and Love

    Nice post! I am a new blogger and am struggling with the photography aspects. Everything in this post rings true to me. Thank you for sharing!

    • hanmwill
      AUTHOR

      Photography is definitely my weakness! Glad you enjoyed, good luck with the blogging!

  • Asher Downer

    This post is funny and very relatable!

    • hanmwill
      AUTHOR

      Thanks!

  • Tasha Louise

    Haha this is definitely the first time I’ve seen blogging compared to sexting!! Also totally agree about the photos, most of the time I have the post ready to go just not the photos for it!

    • hanmwill
      AUTHOR

      Those damn photos!

  • gillianfinn

    Hahaha this is a very strange analogy but I like it! The photos thing is my worst nightmare, especially when it was super dark ALL THE TIME over the Winter months. Fun when you have the time to plan/take photos, otherwise a chore! Loved this 💕

    • hanmwill
      AUTHOR

      I’m glad people are actually understanding where I’m coming from, haha! Yes, thank god the days are starting to get a bit brighter! Thanks lovely 🙂 x

  • writingthebluesaway

    I was very confused as to where this was going but you related the two so well!😂 This is also really informative; I’m still yet to find when the best time to post is because it seems to change, and I’ll have to check out Unsplash. There are so many times where a blog post is written but I have no photos!

    • hanmwill
      AUTHOR

      Haha, thank you! 😂 Unsplash is about to become your best friend then! x

    • Bill Fonda

      I use Unsplash and Pixabay a lot!

  • Chloe

    Love this! You’ve found a really interesting and creative comparison to blogging. I also struggle to figure out the best time to send out a post, it’s so hard to judge and sometimes people aren’t that engaging on some days for whatever reason. Great post Hannah, another one of yours I’ve enjoyed reading 😊 xx

    • hanmwill
      AUTHOR

      Thank you so much, Chloe! 😊xx

  • poutineandprada

    This is so true. And funny!

    • hanmwill
      AUTHOR

      Thank you!

  • Lauren

    I love this! It’s quirky, and it works! Plus everything you’re saying it’s actually really useful. Great post!

    • hanmwill
      AUTHOR

      Thanks, Lauren! 😊

  • This is awesome. You’re definitely right—there are many parallels. For someone who has never sent a sext, I feel like you really get it! Thanks for this cheeky post and for making me both laugh and nod in agreement. Cheers!

    • hanmwill
      AUTHOR

      Ah, thanks Savannah! 😊

  • Nancy

    It is interesting how to made the analogy of blogging to sexting. Oh man, you need to come up with a lot of strategies to pull it off great. YES ON THAT KILLER PHOTO!! Thankfully there are more opportunities to make your blog shine. That IG algorithm is a killer. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

    Nancy ♥ exquisitely.me

    • hanmwill
      AUTHOR

      Thanks so much for reading! 😊x

  • lucymarytaylor

    I love the concept of this post! I never even considered blogging to be like sexting, such an interesting comparison! xx

    Lucy | http://www.lucymary.co.uk

    • hanmwill
      AUTHOR

      Thanks, Luce! xx

  • Lavrax

    This is amazing Han. And this is a beautiful d*** pic of a post!x

    • hanmwill
      AUTHOR

      I love you 😂💗

  • rebekahgillian

    Reading the title of this blog post had me intrigued, but I read your post and now I completely agree with you: blogging really IS like sexting! I’ve definitely noticed a difference in the connection I’m having with readers of my blog now that I’m being more personal, and I’ve really enjoyed letting my guard down and letting people in. I love what you’ve said about the fact that not every post will do as you expected; I’ve definitely experienced that misfortune at times. It’s unfortunate, but you move on, or you try and find other ways of promoting it. I’m lucky that some of my posts have picked up momentum, but even if they don’t, it’s a great sign of what does and doesn’t connect with your audience. Loved this post!

  • Rio

    Love this and can completely relate (to the blogging references not the sexting!) I need to get better at scheduling social media posts on Facebook and twitter. I find we get the most engagement later in the evening but that’s usually when I’m most likely busy doing other stuff. So I think scheduling is the way to go.

    Rio https://oppositetourists.com

  • Chloe

    I really enjoyed this! I was like what on Earth when I read the title but it’s a perfect comparison haha 🌸

    Chloe | https://chlomygod.home.blog/

    • hanmwill
      AUTHOR

      I think a lot of people were wondering where I was going with that, haha! Thanks, lovely! x

  • Michelle

    Ha! This is great. I’ll never look st blogging the same again. 🙂

    • hanmwill
      AUTHOR

      Haha, sorry for tarnishing blogging for you! 😜😂

  • alisonw30

    Love this, it’s so true! I’m guilty of the posting the same thing on multiple channels thing 😏 oops, lazy, will change that 😂

    • hanmwill
      AUTHOR

      If it works for you, don’t change it! I’m definitely not a pro, haha!

  • ellieslondon

    This comparison really made me smile 😀 They really are very similar things when you put it like this! ♥ Loved it! x

    • hanmwill
      AUTHOR

      Thank you! x

  • itsthespicybean

    hahah I had no idea what to expect from this post! it’s weird how on point you are, but after reading this I’ve gotta agree, blogging is a bit like sexting!

    • hanmwill
      AUTHOR

      Glad I could convince you to follow my train of thought, haha!

  • Millie

    HAHA this is great! I’ve never thought of it like this before – but I definitely will now!

    • hanmwill
      AUTHOR

      Thank you! 🙂

  • thetinkerbug

    Haha, this is absolutely true! Great analogy! 🙂

    • hanmwill
      AUTHOR

      Thanks 🙂

  • This is hilarious! I absolutely love it! I never compared blogging to sexting but from your points it’s definitely exactly the same! Love your creativity 🙂

    💗 Alexx | Aesthetics by Alexx
    https://aestheticsbyalexx.com

    • hanmwill
      AUTHOR

      Glad you enjoyed, thanks for reading! 🙂x

  • betterthangoodenough123

    Well you definitely got my attention with the title on this one! I can’t say I’ll be applying your suggestions to sexting anytime soon, but they will certainly help my blog posts. Thanks for a fun and interesting post!
    Joan Senio
    My Best Friend Adeline
    https://kindness-compassion-and-coaching.com

    • hanmwill
      AUTHOR

      I’m glad I could rope you in and that you feel like you learnt something! I’m with you on the sexts though, that’s definitely not my forte! Thanks for reading, Joan! x

  • ariannepeters6986

    So funny and so accurate! Great and creative writing, keep it up!

    • hanmwill
      AUTHOR

      Thanks, lovely!x

  • Chloe Jane

    I love this haha. I never get on a bus anymore but I do miss those funny conversations that you over hear! I always have to have a good photo that goes alongside my post, and because I’m so bad at taking pictures myself, unsplash is my best friend!

    Chloe Chats xx

    • hanmwill
      AUTHOR

      Buses do offer some great entertainment sometimes, haha! I’ve found a new appreciation for unsplash lately and I love it! xx

  • Arrrghhh *screams internally*

    This is hilarious – I can actually see the link between the two – and it’s a fun thought 😀

    I like your ending too ‘thank you, next’ – I need to remember that and keep it as a mantra for all the shite people in my life.

    -Lena
    http://www.lenasnotebook.co.uk
    xxxx

    • hanmwill
      AUTHOR

      Thanks, Lena! I felt super sassy with that ending, haha! xxx

  • thediaryofrebecca

    Ha I love this comparison, so clever and so true! These are such valid points. All great things to think about. I find the part of inspiring to someone and really getting in touch with their feelings hard. Or perhaps I am a little better than I think?! Who knows. I am sure it’s a trial and error situation – so I’ll just keep trying!

    xx

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